by Nate Truman
PABLO PICASSO, 1881-1973:
“We don’t get older, we just get riper. Do you still love life the way you used to, and love people the way you did? Tell me, do you still love the human race, especially your best friends? Do you still love love? And so do I! Oh, we’re great ones for that, you and I. Isn’t love the greatest refreshment in life?”
Love is defined as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. With that definition in mind, stop for a moment and fully recall the people in your life you are in love with. Take a few deep breaths, close your eyes, and recall the tender affection you have for your loved ones. Enjoy, even wallow in the feeling, and let your mind wander through happy memories and thoughts of special moments and times when you were fully focused on the love you felt for someone else.
Let go of any petty selfish “holdback” you feel, that tries to keep you from letting go and completely feeling the love you have for that special someone. No one is watching, no one is judging, so there is no reason to hold back. Picture them in your minds eye, at their most adorable, lovable peek. Go ahead, I’ll wait. (Don’t keep reading, DO IT if you want the ultimate love life!)
Now if you managed to get yourself into a state of love, you are feeling the rewards. You were not thinking about yourself, but fully engaged about your feelings of care for someone else. In this state, your own needs disappear, other than your need to be with your loved one, and to take action to show that person how you feel. Did you want to do something special, or think about hugging or kissing them softly?
“Love is Patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”*
Love transforms YOU into a better person. If you can live the majority of your life in a state of love for others, you will truly have the “ultimate” love life.
*(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)