by Nate Truman

856132_ships_wheelThere is no chance, no destiny, no fate,
that can circumvent or hinder or control
the firm resolve of a determined soul.”

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

They will set you on a course that you choose. With written goals, you can alter your heading and they will help steer you in a whole new direction. If you currently have goals that you know you will accomplish, I know you all ready have a written list of goals. They probably include long term goals, short term goals, personal goals, fitness goals, spiritual goals, as well as financial and career goals.

But even if you have worked hard at defining what you want in all of these categories, and are checking them off one by one, you may find yourself frustrated. If you sense that the “life ladder” you are busy climbing is possibly leaning against the wrong wall, you need to look at the three most important goals of your life.

Most goal setting programs ask you to write out your hearts desires, in different areas of your life. What kind of house do you want? What are you driving? Who are your future friends? What is your job title? How much money do you have in the bank? I call these the “froth” goals. They may seem to be the end desires and results that are the goals of your life, but they are not.

The three most important goals are global goals, and all of the “froth” goals are the end results of where your global goals point you. Just to be clear, a froth goal would be really nice deck chairs, on a luxury yacht, compared to the global goals of your heading and destination and why you want to get there. Getting there is half the fun, but not when you arrive someplace you didn’t ever want to go to!

GOAL #1 LIVE A LIFE OF INTEGRITY. To end up in a place of true accomplishment and happiness, you must have a goal of personal and professional integrity. If your “froth” goal is one of great wealth, I can tell you that if you pursue that goal without the guiding goal of personal and professional integrity, it will not bring you happiness. Check over you goals and make sure that none of your goals would involve cheating or hurting others to get what you want.

GOAL #2 DISCOVER YOUR DESTINY. In my early goal setting sessions, I wrote down all sorts of goals that the world had told me were “impressive.” There was only one big problem, they were not MY goals.
Until you work out what God has called you to do in life, you will swim against that current as hard as you can, but you will never arrive where the universe needs you to be. You have an inner love, a preset internal goal that has always been with you. How many parents have “planned” what sort of children they will raise together, only to discover that they came into this world fully programmed with their personality and direction for life? Spend some quiet time looking over your written goals, but also look for the larger unwritten goal. What specific global goal do you want to be using your time on Earth working towards?

GOAL #3 CHOOSE YOUR LEGACY. The last goal that you must have clearly in your mind is the answer to this question: What will your legacy be? What will remain after you are dead and gone? The spark of immortality seems to be inside each of us, and the idea of death seems more like a concept, even though everything tells us we will die, we seem to disbelieve it. You think you are going to live forever, and so far so good, right?
Well, to truly have all your limited time put to its best use, you must stop and ponder this question of what you will leave behind. For some it will be healthy, well loved children, improved lives because you were involved, or an endowment for a specific charity that played a part in your life. I don’t mean for you to set some sort of goal to get your name chiseled in stone, I want you to think long and hard about what sort of ripple you desire to have made in the lives you touched along your path. 100 years from now, no one will care about your body fat percentage, or if you had the latest clothes. Pay it forward, and invest in something that will outlast you.

Once you have a firm set of the three most important goals in your life, you can enjoy the journey, and the nice deck chairs, knowing you are headed in your true direction.

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by Nate Truman


PABLO PICASSO, 1881-1973:
“We don’t get older, we just get riper.  Do you still love life the way you used to, and love people the way you did? Tell me, do you still love the human race, especially your best friends?  Do you still love love?  And so do I!  Oh, we’re great ones for that, you and I.  Isn’t love the greatest refreshment in life?”

Love is defined as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  With that definition in mind, stop for a moment and fully recall the people in your life you are in love with.  Take a few deep breaths, close your eyes, and recall the tender affection you have for your loved ones.  Enjoy, even wallow in the feeling, and let your mind wander through happy memories and thoughts of special moments and times when you were fully focused on the love you felt for someone else.

Let go of any petty selfish “holdback” you feel, that tries to keep you from letting go and completely feeling the love you have for that special someone.   No one is watching, no one is judging, so there is no reason to hold back.   Picture them in your minds eye, at their most adorable, lovable peek.   Go ahead, I’ll wait. (Don’t keep reading, DO IT if you want the ultimate love life!)

Now if you managed to get yourself into a state of love, you are feeling the rewards. You were not thinking about yourself, but fully engaged about your feelings of care for someone else.  In this state, your own needs disappear, other than your need to be with your loved one, and to take action to show that person how you feel.   Did you want to do something special, or think about hugging or kissing them softly?

“Love is Patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”*

Love transforms YOU into a better person. If you can live the majority of your life in a state of love for others, you will truly have the “ultimate” love life.

*(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

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perfect life
“The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no
recipe for living that suits all cases.” CARL JUNG, 1875 -1961

I agree with Carl, but I still want shoes! I wanted to address this issue right out of the box. I am not going to suggest that I have all the right answers that will help you to perfect your specific life issues. But I do firmly believe that there are distinctions that apply to everyone that can not only improve your life, and make you happier, but also will set you on a new course for a better today, and tomorrow.

So today I want you to try these three steps, and see if you can live this one day
not perfectly, but happily different!

STEP 1: ENGAGE the world! You may have heard this idea in a bit meaner way as “Snap out of it!” or “WAKE UP”! Do you find yourself constantly on “autopilot” throughout your day? What exactly are you waiting for, to engage your brain and total attention? A car crashing through your wall? The world is fascinating in every direction, but you have trained yourself to tune it out. So for the next week, notice something new around you as often as possible. Really look at the people and scenery on the way through your day. When you spend more time fully engaged and aware, new opportunities seem to start popping up! They were always there, but this is a first step in opening yourself up to receiving them.

STEP 2: SMILE. Look at yourself in the mirror, so you can remember how much better you look when you smile, and offer that face to everyone. Put up some sort of item next to your mirror where you will see it that makes you smile. Find a photo of a good friend, lover, a quote, or just a cute picture of something that tickles your funny bone. Smiles look best when they come from the inside out! Why do you smile when someone takes a photo? Try NOT smiling just once, and keep that photo as a reminder. Start a “collection” in your brain of moments and people who bring a smile to your face when you think about them, and when you realize your smile has faded, take a second to pull up a happy memory. Try that right now! I’ll wait.

STEP 3: LISTEN. The reason each of us develop the “autopilot” mode, is there is so much around us to see, hear, touch, taste, smell, and do, that we train ourselves to tune out most everything. Have you ever said a whole sentence to someone, face to face, and at the end they stare at you and then say “What?” So you repeat it all, and they hear it just fine? Do YOU do that to others? Listening is the ONLY way to learn something new. If you are planning what to say instead of listening, or worse, just waiting for the other person to stop talking, there is no chance you can learn from that person. I have never met someone that didn’t have something to teach me, but I had to listen, to find the lesson. So just today, focus on being aware of your universe, smile kindly at everyone, and when someone speaks, listen intently, and then ask them a specific question to see if you truly heard what they were saying. You may find you want to do all of these things more than just today!